How To Get My Ex Back – Step-by-Step Guide

How Can I Get My Ex BackHello I am James Lemaster and I want to thank you for visiting this website.

In this page you will discover how to get my ex back guide. This guide is very special to me because it helped me in getting my ex back. I am the member of popular relationship forum where I received lots of private messages asking about plan that I used to win my ex back.

My love story is very long and in between this love story we got breakup thrice and thankfully now we are living together and having two beautiful daughters. I created this step-by-step for all those boys and girls that want to get their ex back. In this how to get my ex back guide you will discover proven plan that help me in getting ex back. There are around 50,000 people who email me and thanking me for this plan so I can say this plan will surely work for you if you follow it without leaving anything.

I divided this plan into two different parts.

The first part will help you to understand if you are ready to contact your ex. In this part you will find information that will tell you when you can contact your ex and if you pass it then you will get into second part where you will discover two different methods on getting ex back. I hope you will get your ex back with the help of this method.

One more thing I would like to tell you is that it doesn’t matter if you are looking to get your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend this plan will surely help you in making that happen.

Alright let’s get started…

Step 1 – Are You Emotionally Ready To Contact?

There is always hope in winning your ex back doesn’t matter who decided to end the relationship first. Even if your boyfriend or girlfriend already said he or she doesn’t love you anymore that doesn’t mean your relationship is over. Your ex needs some space and time to decide if they really want to end the relationship. It is not easy for them to take decision now because they are bombarded with lots of mix feelings.

But before you contact your ex once again it is important for you to know if you are emotionally ready to face your ex. There is nothing worst then thinking you are emotionally ready and then losing your emotions when you face your ex. Prepare yourself physically and mentally before contacting your ex is the secret of how to get my ex back.

When To Contact Your Ex?

No drunk dialingOne very important thing I would like to explain you is this how to get my ex back guide isn’t about ‘No Contact’ Although some people get success with No contact technique but still I feel that many people misusing at that level when it work against them. For this reason I created my own technique that will determine when you can contact your ex.

This technique is based on three principles that are:

Principle #1 – Are You Ready to contact quiz that will found at the end of this first part. Score it out of 10

Principle #2 – Reason For Breakup: Ask yourself do you know reason for your breakup? Give yourself score out of 10. If you know exact reason then give yourself 10 but if you are uncertain and clueless give yourself 0.

Principle #3 – If your ex ready: Give yourself score out of 10 on bases of how well you think your ex is ready for contact. Judging on base of your last conversation with your ex and severity of breakup. Rate 10 if you think your ex will welcome your call and 0 if you think they don’t want to talk with you.

It is very important to give score with complete honesty because your success and failure depends on it. It is always better to wait for few more days instead of contacting too soon.

21-30 – If your score lies in between these numbers then wait for 3 days before contacting your ex

11-20 – If your score lies in these numbers then wait for 7 days

1-10 – If you score lies in between these numbers then it is recommended to wait for 3 weeks before contacting your ex. You may contact your ex sooner if your score improves but it is important to wait for few more days especially if your score for “If Your Ex Is Ready” is too low.

Creating Your First Letter / Phone Call:

After waiting for the above mentioned period it is time to craft your first letter or phone call. Now you have to decide among these two options because you can’t apply them collectively. If you crafting letter then make sure your ex receives it as well. Crafting letter increases chances of mishandling so make sure your ex receives it. If your craft phone call then makes sure you keep your conversation as short as possible.

If your breakup is severe then I would recommend you to craft letter instead of phone call. It is possible your ex can reject your phone call. Doesn’t matter if you are crafting letter or phone call makes sure you adopt one of the hobbies you always wanted to do. Suppose your ex loves yoga and he/she wanted you to join yoga classes but due to your daily schedule or limit abilities you keep on ignoring them. Now this is the time you get into yoga classes.

Crafting Letter:

writing letterWhen crafting letter makes sure to use vibe of ‘you have moved on’ and don’t use ‘friend’ or ‘we’ words if you don’t want to label only as ‘friends’ only. In your letter make sure you cover these topics:

  • You decided to move on
  • You recover from breakup
  • You adopted new hobby (don’t get into detail)
  • Give compliment
  • You want to give space to them
  • You are ready to help your ex if needed

You can use these topics in any order but make sure you must include all of them and don’t forget to mention you adopt new hobby.

You may be wondering if I am not contacting my ex then why should I prepare myself?

The main reason behind this letter is to letting your ex know that you have moved on but you open to contact. In the mean time you can prepare yourself emotionally and mentally because after this letter you will get call from your ex and it is necessary for you to remain prepare in advance.

If you want to get sample of crafting your initial letter then you can subscribe to email in which you will get sample letters and more.

If You Decided To Call Your Ex:

Call your exIf you think letter is not the best option for you then other option for you is to create phone call to your ex. Keep your call for just 5-10 minutes. Put reminder at your side to have control on your conversation. It is necessary for you to end your call first that is the reason always keep your conversation short and don’t let yourself to fall into deep conversation.

Mention all the topics that I tell you before and start with something like “I just wanted to say hello to you but more importantly…”

If your ex is unavailable to receive your call then most probably you will get into message machine. Just leave your message confidently. Don’t try to call your ex after this point.

Before making call you must prepare yourself emotionally. Best way is to go outside and fun with your friend prior to making call. This will greatly reduce the pressure of call from your head. During the call if you feel you both are getting into deep conversation then quickly change topic and keep your conversation clear and short.

What To Do If You Don’t Receive Any Reply From Your Ex?

Doesn’t matter if you receive reply from your ex or not you have to do what you have mentioned in your letter/phone call. Remember you are allowing ‘space’ to your ex and if you break your words then your ex may think you didn’t recover from breakup and you are just saying lie.

If you want to get your ex once again in your life it is important to remain honest with your ex. You can regain trust, attraction and get them back by remaining honest with them.

Quiz: Are You Ready To Contact Your Ex?

Answer true or false

  • You keep on checking your mobile phone or any other electronic device to find if there is any message from your ex                   True/False
  • You feel you have no future without your ex           True/False
  • You keep on blaming yourself or your ex for the breakup         True/False
  • You keep on sitting along in the dark room thinking about your breakup       True/False
  • You feel you will get emotional if you get into conversation with your ex       True/False
  • You want to cry by remembering about your breakup         True/False
  • You are having trouble in eating, sleeping and working because of the pain of your breakup         True/False
  • You keep on rejecting invitation from your friends for vacations or journey             True/False
  • You still can’t able to decide what went wrong in your relationship             True/False
  • You keep on talking about your ex with your mutual friends             True/False

Score out of 10

Add up all your False response and this is your Ready to Contact score out of 10.

Step 2 – Blueprint To Getting Your Ex Back

How To Get My Ex BackThis is the main step of how to get my ex back guide. In the first step you discover if you are emotionally ready to contact your ex and now in this step you will get exact blueprint on how to make your contact with your ex.

I divided this step into two parts.

The first part is about YOU

The second part is about YOUR EX

It is important to remember that both these parts are crucial for your success and you can’t avoid anyone of them. If you put your focus only on YOU then you will not get any success similarly if you put your focus only on YOUR EX then also you will fail to get ex back.

Part I – You:

The first part that is focusing on YOU is especially more important than second part. This is because in this part you have to update yourself mentally and physically. You can’t skip this part. If you skip it then don’t surprise if your ex starts hating you more than ever. You must dedicate at least whole month in updating yourself.

First of all you have to enjoy as being single once again. You get freedom and now you can spend with your old friends. Make full use of this time and plan for vacation with your old friends. This way you can reconnect with them and remove painful feelings of breakup as well.

You can set short term plans for 1-2 months like losing few pounds from your body or building few pounds of muscles. This will not only improve your body but also improve your health as well. Do you know exercise can boost the production of Serotonin (also known as happy hormone)

In this period if you receive call from your ex or you meet them one-to-one then make sure you don’t get angry or totally avoid them. Best thing you can do is to keep calm and keep your conversation for just 10-15 minutes and keep this conversation at social level.

Part II – Your Ex:

Now this is main part. This is divided into direct and indirect method.

The direct method is simple for those who get opportunity to date once again with their ex. This method is for people who can talk with their ex face-to-face.


Indirect method is for people who are in long distance relationship and face-to-face is not possible for them.

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